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Rating: - New Stress Reliever- 1-2-3 Magic!
I'm a 34 year old, stay at home Mom, trying to raise a 6 year old daughter. She's a very demanding,stubborn,and mature child. I'm also raising a 16 year old with Down's Syndrome,and my husband is away alot with work. Before I saw the video of 1-2-3 Magic,I was at my wits end with my little tyrant,who was definitely running my home. Every supper time was horendous,getting out the door in the morning was the same. She was upsetting the whole family and I'd basically tried everything. She didn't like what was put before her for supper,and never finished it. Her focus was on dessert. Getting up for school and out the door in the morning was just as bad. She didn't have anything to wear and what she did have was stupid,according to her. I tried punishing her with the usual things like "time out",I yelled at her when my patience was gone,I took away her privileges,nothing worked. When I was asked to view this video 1-2-3 Magic,I was skepticle,but agreed anyway. After just a few minutes,I grabbed a pen and paper and started making notes. It was as if Dr.Phlen actually knew me and my child personally. That same day after watching the video,I waited patiently for my beloved 6 year old to come home,and I sat her down and explained briefly,the way things were going to be around here. I picked some things out of the video that was applicable to my child,and instantly started incorporating them. She was appalled that she had to start "paying me" for doing "her" chores,only if "she" refused to do them herself of course. She has also started making her bed before going to school in the morning,and getting better at the supper table. I would definitely incourage all parents to watch this video,it sure changed my family's life for the better. It was a relief! Thank-you Dr.Phelan for relieving some of my stress and enjoying my beloved 6 year old again.
Rating: - It really is magic!
I have seen this technique work with really hard kids, the kids nothing else works for. Many other parents love the technique; so much so that they tend to STEAL my video and I've had to buy several over the years. The book is simply not the same. The best thing is: it works at my house with my fiesty 4-year old!
Rating: - stands the test of time
As a school social worker in two elementary schools (the technique is recommended for kids 2-12)I often am asked by parents how they should deal with their child's behaivor at home. The complaint is that the child will argue, refuse, question ("why? Why? Why?!), threatening ("I'll run away"), try to use guilt (" but you let Jimmy do it" ((resist the temptation to say that you like Jimmy better!)) and so on to get what they want. What I LOVE about this book is that it is easy to use! It teachs parents how to recognize what I call baiting behavior and address it in a non-emotional and non-wordy manner. I have given this video (2-hours in length so get your popcorn ready) to countless parents and I have had NOT ONE negative response yet! If I call to check up on the progress at home and they do tell me things are getting a little rough again I ask them "are you still using the 1-2-3 Majic?" If they say "no, I kind of got away from that". I tell them to get back to using it! Consistency is the key and it ain't hard! I'd also like to dispell the myth that using 1-2-3 is giving the child three chances to misbehave. This is ridiculous! Children are allowed imprefection, and a simple reminder or warning ("That's one") let's them know that their behavior is inappropriate. If they do it again they may be limit testing but this is developmentally appropriate at all ages ("That's two.) I guarentee you, if you even get to "three" it will be mostly in the beginning when they are trying to see if you will actually follow through with your consequence. And of course if the misbehavior is hitting or something equally bad you don't count from one; you go right to "That's three. Take 5."! Funny, when I was using this with my 8-year-old daughter she tested me just like they said she might (mocking me in a sassy voice "that's one") I just kept calm and said "That's two". She didn't say a word after that! If you want a simple to follow plan for dealing with back-talk, manipulation, rude comments, begging, etc. that works like majic this is seriously IT!
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